Children who have a healthy self-esteem
tend to enjoy interacting with others. They are gregarious,
comfortable in social settings and enjoy group activities as
well as independent pursuits. They are also willing to
pursue new interests. When challenges arise, these children
are able to work towards finding solutions. They voice
discontent without belittling themselves or others.
The onus, therefore, of helping children build the inner
strength to cope with life's ups and downs as they grow lies
with the parents. Good parenting can make a lot of
difference by way of building the confidence of your
You need to express love and tell your children, as often as
possible, that you care for them. You can do this in several
ways. One of the best ways is to have a chat with them.
Talking together gives the message that you enjoy your
children's company. Another way of showing your affection to
them is by listening to them. This shows your children that
you find them interesting and worth listening to. Sometimes
it is advisable to join in your toddlers’ games. You can
also ask your children to help you with household chores and
thereby communicate that you enjoy spending time with them.
While praising your children for succeeding in an effort is
important, appreciation should be expressed for the efforts
and attempts too.
Encouraging children to do their daily chores like managing
buttons or putting on their own clothes independently gives
a great boost to their self-esteem. You should, however, be
ready to step in if they get into difficulties and feel
frustrated. But avoid solving every problem for them.
You can help children feel they can exert some control over
the world by providing choices to them. For example, you can
ask your children to choose their own clothes or which book
they would like to read with you.
Try to avert disasters that can lead to loss of confidence
in your children, or bring in tempers and tears to them. The
over-confidence shown by some children can falter quite
quickly if they constantly fail at all the things they try.
Therefore, you need to stay one step ahead.
Never forget to emphasise the good points in your children
and ignore any annoying behaviour as much as possible.
You as parents can provide your children with plenty of
activities to try their hand at. Experimenting with lots of
different things makes it more likely for your children to
find something they are good at, even if there are many
things they cannot manage so well yet.
Since the ability to make friends and get on well with
others plays a big role in building self-esteem, parents
need to take an active interest in encouraging friendships
among their toddlers.
In case, you have tried all the above suggestions and still
have questions on lack of confidence in your children, you
can get a practical solution from Jiva. Jiva makes use of
the know-how of its expert educationists and the wisdom of
Ayurveda to provide you consultation for these kinds of
problems. Please feel free to contact Jiva at 0129-4088152
or write to us at
firstname.lastname@example.org. We will try our best to give a
solution to your child’s problem with our expertise.